विवेचन सारांश
Divine qualities lead us to Paramātmā while demoniac qualities push us to hell

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अंग्रेज़ी - English
Saturday, 21 September 2024
Chapter 16: Daivāsura-Sampad-Vibhāga-Yoga
2/2 (Ślōka 4-24)
Interpreter: GĪTĀ PRAVĪṆA RUPAL SHUKLA


Chapter 16 of the Srimad Bhagavad Gītā is Daivāsura Sampad Vibhāga Yoga - The Divine and the Demoniac qualities.

The session began with prayers and lighting of the divine lamp.

It is solely due to the grace of the Supreme Divine that one has been bestowed with the blessing to learn and imbibe the divine wisdom of the Srimad Bhagavad Gītā. One should remember that it is not the seeker who chooses to read this the Gītā, but the Supreme Divine who chooses the seeker to read and imbibe the teachings of the Gītā. To be able to learn Gīta is itself a blessing from Bhagavān. One must read, memorize and learn Gīta for one's own good. The Divine knowledge of the Srimad Bhagavad Gītā brings a shift in one's consciousness from a state of ignorance to a state of veracity and knowledge. The divine wisdom imparted in the Gītā helps one overcome any situation in daily life from a state of serenity and enables one to walk on the path of virtuousness.

In this chapter, Bhagavān elaborately explains the two kinds of human nature - the saintly and the demoniac. Bhagavān says that the saintly-nature persons are inclined towards the mode of goodness, align to the instructions given in the scriptures, and purify the mind with spiritual practices. Such behavior attracts Daivi sampatti or Divine-like qualities, which puts them on the path of spiritual elevation and realization. On the contrary, the demoniac-nature persons are more inclined towards the modes of passion and ignorance and materially focused insatiable desires. One desire leads to another, and hence, one is gripped by a vicious cycle of desires. Unfulfilled desires lead to a state of misery.

In the earlier session the divine qualities were discussed in detail. Now the demonical qualities will be explained by the Paramātmā from the 4th sloka. HE expounds on the demoniac traits which pushes one to ignorance and downfall, which one should overcome. Our scriptures have instructions about the Do's and Don'ts. When one follows the directives of the scriptures, one moves towards perfection. However, those who deviate from the directives of the scriptures (with an assumption that they possess higher intellect and understanding) neither acquire true knowledge, nor the perfection of happiness, nor liberation from material bondage. HE concludes the Chapter by declaring that the scriptures have the Supreme authority in ascertaining the Do's and Dont's, and one needs to align to the directives of the scriptures. 

16.4

dambho darpo'bhimānaśca, krodhaḥ(ph) pāruṣyameva ca,
ajñānaṃ(ñ) cābhijātasya, pārtha sampadamāsurīm 16.4

Hypocrisy, arrogance, pride and anger, sternness and ignorance too - these are the marks of him, who is born with demoniac properties.

 In this sloka Sri Krishna Paramātmā outlines the six qualities of the demonic nature (asuri sampada) as a contrast to the divine qualities described in earlier slokas.

  • Dambhah: Hypocrisy, putting on a show of what one doesn’t own. For example showing off a yellow metal chain as Gold to others.
  • Darpah: Arrogance, undue pride stemming from misconceptions about wealth, power, or birth. eg:- showing off an expensive shirt before others.
  • Abhimanah: Self-conceit, inflated ego based on material possessions, education, or social status. Superior feeling over others which arises due to hypocrisy and arrogance.
  • Parusyam : Harshness, cruelty, and a lack of compassion over trivial things.
  • Krodhah: Anger, uncontrolled rage often fueled by frustration and desires. Shouting on every one for simple reasons.
  • Ajnanam: Ignorance, the absence of spiritual knowledge and the inability to distinguish between right and wrong.

These six qualities are asuri gunas that impede one's spiritual progress and lead down to a destructive path.

16.5

daivī sampadvimokṣāya, nibandhāyāsurī matā,
mā śucaḥ(s) saṃpadaṃ(n) daivīm, abhijāto'si pāṇḍava 16.5

The divine endowment has been recognized as conducive to liberation, and the demoniac one as leading to bondage. Grieve not, Arjuna, for you are born with the divine propensities.

Bhagavān gives a significant insight into the path of liberation. The saintly qualities are believed to be for liberation, and demoniac attributes for bondage.

HE assures Arjuna that he need not worry since he is born with divine qualities. By saying so, Bhagavān tries to boost the morale of Arjuna who was depressed. The sloka assures Arjuna that his inherent nature aligns with the path of liberation. Recognizing our inherent qualities can dispel anxieties and guide us on the right path.

A question arises as to why one should aspire for liberation? Normally, humans do not do anything without a goal. For example, a student studies in order to get a job, which will get him money with which he can enjoy materialistic things. The enjoyment of materialistic things brings him happiness. Thus, Happiness is the ultimate goal for a human being. But the happiness attained from materialistic things is not permanent. 

Bhagavān says that the ultimate goal should be liberation. Unless a child is told about the benefits of adopting good principles, he will not move into that path. Similarly Bhagavān is explaining to his dearest disciple Arjuna, about the divine and demonical qualities and why one should inculcate only divine qualities to obtain liberation which gives the ultimate happiness.

16.6

dvau bhūtasargau loke'smin, daiva āsura eva ca,
daivo vistaraśaḥ(ph) prokta, āsuraṃ(m) pārtha me śṛṇu 16.6

There are only two types of men in this world, Arjuna, the one possessing a divine nature and the other possessing a demoniac disposition. Of these, the type possessing divine nature has been dealt with at length; now hear in detail from Me about the type possessing demoniac disposition.

This sloka introduces the concept of two fundamental natures within living beings. 

  • The divine nature (daivi sampada)
  • The demonic nature (asuri sampada)
Bhoota in sanskrit refers to element. Human being is considered as "panchabhuta prani " which means made up of 5 elements - Ether, earth, air, water and fire. The trees, stones etc constitute the Bhuta padardha. 

Addressing Arjuna as pārtha (pritheyeha putraha; son of Prithi / Kunti),  Bhagavān proceeds to explain about both the natures. No one is perfect and everyone has both the qualities. By understanding the different qualities and their phala, one can strive to cultivate the divine qualities and reduce the demoniac ones.

16.7

pravṛttiṃ(ñ) ca nivṛttiṃ(ñ) ca, janā na vidurāsurāḥ,
na śaucaṃ(n) nāpi cācāro, na satyaṃ(n) teṣu vidyate 16.7

Men possessing a demoniac disposition know not what right activity is, and what right abstinence from activity is. Hence they possess neither purity (external or internal) nor good conduct nor even truthfulness.

Those with a demoniac nature tend to be imbalanced, overly focused on pravritti (external action) without cultivating nivritti (inward reflection). This imbalance can lead to:
  •  harmful or unethical actions without considering the consequences.
  •  disregarding spiritual practices and teachings that promote inner peace and self-understanding.
  • becoming excessively attached to material possessions and worldly pursuits, losing sight of their true nature.
  • Bad conduct, no purity, lack of truthfulness and doing things which shouldn’t be done or not doing things that should be done.

One should engage in the world with a sense of responsibility and awareness, while also nurturing the inner spiritual growth through contemplation, meditation, and ethical conduct.

16.8

asatyamapratiṣṭhaṃ(n) te, jagadāhuranīśvaram,
aparasparasambhūtaṃ(ṅ), kimanyatkāmahaitukam 16.8

Men of demoniac disposition say this world is without any foundation, absolutely unreal and Godless, brought forth by mutual union of the male and female and hence conceived in lust; what else than this?

No one is totally free from the demoniacal qualities. One becomes Asuri at those moments when good conduct is not followed, even if it is for a short period of an hour or a day or a week. If we watch our thought process we can  clearly demarcate between Asuri and Daivi qualities. We should always check ourselves regarding presence of these qualities and try to increase the divine qualities and reduce the demoniac qualities. We are supposed to only check ourselves not others.

Paramātmā describes the core beliefs of those with a demoniac nature (asuri sampada) regarding the creation of the world and the divine. Those with a demoniac nature believe that the world is unreal (asatyam) with no foundation (apratishtham). They also believe it is not created or controlled by God (anisvaram) and arises solely from the lust (kama) driven union of the sexes (aparasparasambhootam).

  • Materialistic view: They reject the concept of a higher reality or spiritual dimension. They see the world only in material terms, focusing on physical experiences and desires.
  • Denial of God: They don't acknowledge the existence of a divine force or creator. They do not believe in the Satchidananda  Roopa and refuse to accept the Satyam jnanam, anantam and nityam concept of the supreme.
  • Reductionist view of creation: They believe the world is simply a product of random interactions between physical elements, with sexual desire as the sole driving force.

16.9

etāṃ(n) dṛṣṭimavaṣṭabhya, naṣṭātmāno'lpabuddhayaḥ,
prabhavantyugrakarmāṇaḥ, kṣayāya jagato'hitāḥ 16.9

Clinging to this false view, these slow - witted men of vile disposition and terrible deeds, are enemies of mankind, bent on destruction of the world.

Krishna Paramātmā also describes the nature of the people with demoniac attributes as cruel, ruthless engaging in barbaric activities without any remorse or repentance (Paschathaap).They take pride in doing such acts and their perspective is limited and distorted, failing to recognize the true nature of reality and the importance of spiritual understanding.

The demoniac people believe in unreal/ godless world/ without foundation and are atheistic in nature. They are killing their own souls and have inferior intellect. So, they commit sins by being cruel and only can lead to the destruction of the world. They cannot do anything for the welfare of the world but only cause harm to the world.

16.10

kāmamāśritya duṣpūraṃ(n), dambhamānamadānvitāḥ,
mohādgṛhītvāsadgrāhān, pravartante'śucivratāḥ 16.10

Cherishing insatiable desires and embracing false doctrines through ignorance, these men of impure conduct move in this world, full of hypocrisy, pride and arrogance.

Paramātmā further says, those with a demoniac nature are controlled by insatiable desires& lust (kamamaasritya dushpooram).

Dushpooran means insatiable desires; one desire is followed by another, leading to a continuous cycle of desires. For instance, a child wishes for a bicycle, and pleads with the parent assuring that it would be her last wish. However, very soon, a new desire for something bigger like car will carve in, followed by others. So the list is unending; our desires are unlimited.

People with insatiable desires are filled with pride (dambha), arrogance (maana), and conceit (madaa-nvitaaḥ). Due to delusion (moha), they cling to false notions and wrong ideas (asat-grahaan). They engage in actions based on impure vows and unrighteous conduct (ashuci-vrataaḥ).

16.11

cintāmaparimeyāṃ(ñ) ca, pralayāntāmupāśritāḥ,
kāmopabhogaparamā, etāvaditi niścitāḥ 16.11

Cherishing insatiable desires and embracing false doctrines through ignorance, these men of impure conduct move in this world, full of hypocrisy, pride and arrogance.

Sri Krishna Paramātmā  explains about the remaining asura attributes. Demonical people possess the following qualities:

  • ChintamaparimeyanInnumerable anxieties that arise due to unlimited desires. These anxieties are not just temporary, but are also deep.
  • Pralayantamupasritah: These innumerable anxieties end only by the arrival of death.
  • Kamopabhogaparama: Develop great interest in the pursuit of material possessions and sensual gratification.
  • Mistaken about true happiness: They believe that fulfilling desires and accumulating wealth is the ultimate purpose of life and the only path to happiness.

These people cannot understand the difference between the temporary pleasures of the material world and the lasting peace found on the spiritual path. They are trapped in a cycle of desire and dissatisfaction, mistaking fleeting pleasures for true happiness. For obtaining these pleasures they follow unlawful and immoral means accumulating more sin.

16.12

āśāpāśaśatairbaddhāḥ(kh), kāmakrodhaparāyaṇāḥ,
īhante kāmabhogārtham, anyāyenārthasañcayān 16.12

Held in bondage by hundreds of ties of expectation and wholly giving themselves up to lust and anger, they strive to amass by unfair means hoards of money and other objects for the enjoyment of sensuous pleasures.

Paramātmā  emphasizes the negative consequences of an unrestrained desire for material things. The asuri attributes portray a life filled with anxiety, anger, and ultimately suffering.

  • āśāpāśaśatairbaddhāḥ: bonded to countless expectations.
  • kāmakrodhaparāyaṇāḥ: due to these expectations & bondages, more desires and anger arises.
  • kāmabhogārtham: give themselves up to lust and wealth. 
  • anyāyenārthasañcayān: For fulling those expectations they retort to unrighteous & unlawful means.
Bhagavān doesn't advocate for complete renunciation of worldly life. However, HE encourages moderation and following ethical principles in all pursuits. HE says true happiness comes from inner peace and spiritual fulfillment, not material possessions.

16.13

idamadya mayā labdham, imaṃ(m) prāpsye manoratham,
idamastīdamapi me, bhaviṣyati punardhanam 16.13

They say to themselves, “This much has been secured by me today and now I shall realize this ambition. So much wealth is already with me and yet again this shall be mine”.

Demonical persons are consumed by ego, materialism, and a sense of entitlement. They are blind to their own shortcomings and believe their wealth and power are the keys to happiness.

  • Idam adya maya labdham: They are obsessed with material possessions and focus on what they have gained today. 
  • Imam prapsye manoratham They are fixated on acquiring more.
  • Idamastidamapi me: They believe that they are solely responsible for their achievements ("maya") due to ignorance and have an inflated sense of self-importance.
  • idam asti idam api me bhavishyati punar dhanam: Their primary concern is accumulating wealth. They are convinced that their wealth will continue to grow and bring them happiness.

16.14

asau mayā hataḥ(ś) śatruḥ(r), haniṣye cāparānapi,
īśvaro'hamahaṃ(m) bhogī, siddho'haṃ(m) balavānsukhī 16.14

“That enemy has been slain by me and I shall kill those others too. I am the Lord of all, and enjoyer of all power. I am endowed with all occult powers, and am mighty and happy.”

Bhagavān further explains about the asuri attributes as follows:
  • Asau maya hataḥ shatruḥ: arrogant, violent and kills all enemies.
  • Hanishye chaparan api: boast about past victories and threaten to destroy anyone who opposes them. For eg:- Hiranyakashipu, Kamsa, Hiranyaksha, Ravana 
  • Ishvaro hamam : Deluded about their own power, they believe they are God-like and the source of all their achievements and happiness.
  • Aham bhogi : (Self-absorbed) They see themselves as the ultimate "enjoyer" and believe they have achieved perfection (siddhaḥ). They are convinced of their own strength (balavan) and believe they deserve happiness (sukhi).
Death of Hiranyakashipu:
Prahlad, the son of the Hiranyakshipu, hid his kittens in newly made pots, unaware that they were ready for burning in fire. When he realised that the pots were put into fire, he started crying, fearing the fate of the kittens. Narada muni advised him to pray for Sreemannarayan swamy. The little boy did so, and got his kittens back, without any harm done to them. He realised that Sreemannarayan swamy is the only god in the world, but not his father Hiranyakashipu who declared himself as God. He infuriated his father by refusing to bow down, and was sentenced to death as punishment. Sreemannarayan swamy came down to his devotee's rescue, and killed Hiranyakashipu.

These demoniac people cannot see the truth as they are tied by the ropes of desires.

16.15

āḍhyo'bhijanavānasmi, ko'nyosti sadṛśo mayā,
yakṣye dāsyāmi modiṣya, ityajñānavimohitāḥ 16.15

“I am wealthy and own a large family; who else is equal to me? I will sacrifice to Gods, will give alms, I will make merry.”

The demonical people think that doing yajna and tapas is also to gain name & fame for themselves. 

Adhyah: rich & wealthy
Abhijanasmi: having a very big family
Konosti sadruso maya: Who else is similar to me?

These attributes come under tamasic gunas. They are deluded by ignorance and are enveloped in the illusion that they are super human and demi gods. All these characters  bring them more closer to down fall and trap them in the web of desires leading to life- death cycles.

16.16

anekacittavibhrāntā, mohajālasamāvṛtāḥ,
prasaktāḥ(kh) kāmabhogeṣu, patanti narake'śucau 16.16

Thus deluded by ignorance, enveloped in the mesh of delusion and addicted to the enjoyment of sensuous pleasures, their mind bewildered by numerous thoughts, these men of devilish disposition fall into the foulest hell.

Krishna Paramātmā  describes these people have many unenthical and immoral desires (aneka chitta vibranta) and are over powered by the delusion (moha maya). They continue to live in this illusion leading to more anxiety and ignorance.

Paramātmā also talks about the consequences for such deluded illusions who are caught in the web of attachments and enjoying the sensual pleasures through immoral and unlawful means. HE says the demoniacal people fall into the impure hell for several lives, without coming out of the hell as there will be no one to save them.

16.17

ātmasaṃbhāvitāḥ(s) stabdhā, dhanamānamadānvitāḥ,
yajante nāmayajñaiste, dambhenāvidhipūrVākam 16.17

Intoxicated by wealth and honour, those self-conceited and haughty men perform sacrifices only in name for ostentation, without following the sacred rituals.

The demonical people indulge in self gratification, self appraisal and are boasting always about the amount of wealth amassed by them.

Atma Sambhavitah: Self centred and Self conceit 
Dhana mana madaanvitah: addicted to wealth, arrogant and self boasting.
yajante namayajnaste : perform the sacrifices just for the sake of name and fame
Dambhena viddhipurvakam: showing off on performing puja or yajna which is not told in the scriptures.
Viddhi : told in the Sashtra.
Avidhhi: not told in the scriptures.

They do yajna or austerities only for getting name and fame. They do not believe in the vedic scriptures or puranas but only pretend as if they follow all of them.

If we take the example of the NGOs, only 10% of them actually work for the poor and needy people. All others maintain files and obtain grants and funds from the Government or from the general public. Geeta pariwar is one of those few organisations that truly work for the benefit of the society. It runs with the help of Volunteers where no compulsory donations are asked. Donations are accepted purely on voluntary basis with no compulsion what so ever. Such pure organisations only can inspire large number of people.

16.18

ahaṅkāraṃ(m) balaṃ(n) darpaṃ(ṅ), kāmaṃ(ṅ) krodhaṃ(ñ) ca saṃśritāḥ,
māmātmaparadeheṣu, pradviṣanto'bhyasūyakāḥ 16.18

Given over to egotism, brute force, arrogance, lust and anger etc., and calumniating others, they despise Me (the in-dweller), dwelling in their own bodies, as in those of others.

These people with demonical attributes are immersed in arrogance (ahankaram), egoism (darpam), conceit, publicity, anger (krodham), lust (kamam). They don’t believe in God .They cannot see god either in themselves or others (mamatma paradehesu). So, they don’t respect any human being. They are insulting God by hating other people. But they don’t realize this. 

Bhagavān says in the 15th chapter,

sarvasya chāhaṃ hṛdi sanniviṣṭō mattaḥ smṛtirjñānamapōhanaṃ cha.
vēdaiścha sarvairahamēva vēdyō vēdāntakṛdvēdavidēva chāham II

Bhagavān is present in every one

If we hate some one we are hating the Bhagavān HIMSELF.

They are in such a delusion that we cannot show them the right path. We cannot convince them that the path they are treading is wrong one because they will never agree to that. Instead they will insist that the path that they are following is the correct one.

16.19

tānahaṃ(n) dviṣataḥ(kh) krūrān, saṃsāreṣu narādhamān,
kṣipāmyajasRāmaśubhān, āsurīṣveva yoniṣu 16.19

Those haters, sinful, cruel and vilest among men, I cast again and again into demoniacal wombs in this world.

Bhagavān  reiterates that such people who are cruel/tyrannical/vicious are not dear to HIM, and they will be thrown into the wombs of similar people at rebirth. They are born again and again until their sanchita karmas are reduced and undergo troubles & suffering repeatedly in each birth.

16.20

āsurīṃ(y̐) yonimāpannā, mūḍhā janmani janmani,
māmaprāpyaiva kaunteya, tato yāntyadhamāṃ(ṅ) gatim.16.20

Failing to reach Me, Arjuna, those stupid persons are born life after life in demoniac wombs and then verily sink down to a still lower plane.

Sri Krishna tells Arjuna that the stupid soul will fall into the cycle of life & death and never reach HIM until the person develops the divine qualities.

Asurim Yoni apanna :The demonical stupid souls take life in demoniac wombs, again & again 

Such demonical creatures who take birth again and again will never attain god .They sink to the lower strata of existence. They themselves are responsible for their “gati”, and cannot blame anyone but themselves. All human beings should try to improve the divine attributes and try to reduce the demonical qualities so that the suffering caused due to rebirth is reduced.

16.21

trividhaṃ(n) narakasyedaṃ(n), dvāraṃ(n) nāśanamātmanaḥ,
kāmaḥ(kh) krodhastathā lobhaḥ(s), tasmādetattrayaṃ(n) tyajet 16.21

Desire, anger and greed – these triple gates of hell, bring about the downfall of the soul. Therefore, one must shun all these three.

Krishna Paramātmā lists the three main gates to hell:

  • 1.   Desire / Kama
  • 2.   Anger / Krodh
  • 3.   Greed / Lobh

These three qualities will lead to the downfall and destruction of human beings. People create these three hells by themselves and burn in them. Hence they have to be avoided at any cost.

All the three are interlinked. Kamana if not fulfilled leads to anger; anger leads to greed; greed leads to desire; and the cycle continues. As human beings it is very difficult to completely avoid any negative trait. But we all should be alert and try to watch our thought process and try to reduce the demonical traits. Anger is also justified sometimes, when used as a measure to bring a person on the right path.  But it should not lead to violence.

16.22

etairvimuktaḥ(kh) kaunteya, tamodvāraistribhirnaraḥ,
ācaratyātmanaḥ(ś) śreyaḥ(s), tato yāti parāṃ(ṅ) gatim 16.22

Freed from these three gates of hell, man works for his own salvation and thereby attains the Supreme goal ie. God.

Bhagavān also tells us to avoid these three hells by following the Śāstras. Every person should be alert and correct himself as and when these demonic traits arise and improve the divine traits. Divine traits lead to noble behavior, and getting liberated from these negative traits. One will attain the supreme lord.

The divine traits can be imbibed by following the principles of dharma, bhakti, jnana, karma etc. as described by the Paramātmā in the Gītā. If we pray to the Paramātmā, HE will bless us with the divine traits which will again help us in attaining supreme reality. This Sādhanā has to be followed continuously without any break till we leave our external body.

16.23

yaḥ(ś) śāstravidhimutsṛjya, vartate kāmakārataḥ,
na sa siddhimavāpnoti, na sukhaṃ(n) na parāṃ(ṅ) gatim 16.23

Discarding the injunctions of the scriptures, he who acts in an arbitrary way according to his own sweet will, such a person neither attains occult powers, nor the supreme goal, nor even happiness.

Bhagavān reiterates in this sloka that those individuals who do not believe and practice the holy scriptures like Vedas, Puranas and teachings of the forefathers and continuously indulge in the sensory pleasures will never get peace, happiness and perfection in life. Discarding the injunctions and following their own will & intellect  will not help in attaining happiness/perfection or reaching the supreme goal.

For example, some people prefr to deviate from the sastras by feeding the poor instead of the Brahmān who performs certain austeries on their behalf. We should follow the scriptures and feed the Brahmān along with the poor people.

The holy scriptures clearly define the standards to be followed for a peaceful life and attain the liberation. So unless a sadhaka falls in love with the holy scriptures and follow them scrupulously, it is practically very difficult to continue the Sādhanā to reach salvation. The pramana for Veda is following Bhagavad Gītā. Gist of Vedas is Upanishads and gist of upanishads is Gītā.

16.24

tasmācchāstraṃ(m) pramāṇaṃ(n) te, kāryākāryavyavasthitau,
Jñātvā śāstravidhānoktaṃ(ṅ), karma kartumihārhasi 16.24

Therefore, the scripture alone is your guide in determining what should be done and what should not be done. Knowing this, you ought to perform only such action as is ordained by the scriptures.

Therefore, these scriptures have to be followed by the sadhakas to walk on the right spiritual path. When one becomes adapt in following them, the he realizes the importance of them in one’s life. One should follow the Śāstra Vidhana and the Vidhi karmas, and avoid the Nishidha karmas.

Opinions of different people /sadhus/sanyasis etc on a particular problem, will confuse us .So it is better to trust the authenticated proof given by the Bhagavān to try to solve the problems faced in this material world. Bhagavad Gītā is a validated and authenticated proof given by the Bhagavān.

The overall message is that demoniac nature leads to unhappiness, delusion, and a fall from grace. Hence we should cultivate the divine traits to lead a peaceful, happy and purposeful life.

Question and Answer Session:

TanushreeJi:

Q: How to follow Akrodha? How should we react if some one addresses in a wrong way?

A: The best way is to ignore the harsh words of some one. Try to ignore the remarks. Count from 1-10 so that anger subsides. We should also suggest our children to do the same. If two children are fighting we should not take sides and ignore their faults. Their fight should not affect our relation with the other child's parents.

Q: How should we react to disrespectful remarks?
A: Swami Vivekananda ji is the perfect example in this situation. He was sitting between two foreigners who were talking about him in a demeaning way. Swamiji never cared for those remarks but when they started talking about India in a disrespectful way, he immediately replied to them in English. The foreigners who thought that swamiji was not educated and couldnt speak in English were dumb founded to hear wonderful vocabulary from him.
We should be able to demarcate when to speak and how to react depending on the remarks made. If it is personal it is always better not to reply and ignore.

Arohi Ji: 
Q: 
If we read Bhadgavad Gītā regularly with shradhha can we connect to our soul?
A: Yes, definitely. In 13th chapter Bhagavān has told that if we keep chanting the Gītā, then it becomes our guiding force and our contact with Paramātmā happens, and we can hear our inner soul. This leads to self realisation but it doesnot happen immediately. It is a long journey.

om tatsaditi śrīmadbhagavadgītāsu upaniṣatsu
brahmavidyāyāṃ(y̐) yogaśāstre śrīkṛṣṇārjunasaṃvāde
daivāsurasampadvibhāgayogo nāma ṣoḍaśo'dhyāyaḥ.